Dating violence is all too common. Statistics show that 1 in 3 teenagers have experienced or will experience violence in a dating relationship. In dating violence, one partner tries to maintain power and control over the other through abuse. Dating violence crosses all racial, economic and social lines. Most victims are young women, who are also at greater risk for serious injury. Young women need a dating safety plan.
Dating abuse is a big problem, affecting youth in every community across the nation. Learn the facts below.
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If you are a teenager involved in an abusive relationship, you need to remember that no one deserves to be abused or threatened. Remember you cannot change your batterer, and in time the violence will get worse. You need to take care of yourself. Talk to a trusted adult or locate a shelter or agency serving victims of domestic abuse in your community. Together, you can talk about making a plan to end the relationship and remain safe.
Call the AWARE’s 24-hour Crisis Hotline, (517)783-2861. Help is available 24-hours a day, 7 days a week.
You should think ahead about ways to be safe if you are in a dangerous or potentially dangerous relationship. Here are some things to consider in designing your own safety plan.
If you suspect that your teenager is already involved with an abusive partner, ask. Give your teenager a chance to talk. Listen quietly to the whole story. Tell your teenager you are there to help — not to judge. If your teenager does not want to talk with you, help your teenager find another trusted person to talk with. Focus on your child and do not put down the abusive partner. Point out how unhappy your teenager seems to be while with this person. Take whatever safety measures are necessary, including calling AWARE at (517) 783-2861.
Teenagers can choose better relationships when they learn to identify the early warning signs of an abusive relationship, understand that they have choices, and believe they are valuable people who deserve to be treated with respect.